a morning note to the strong one & those around her 🤎
To the person constantly in spaces where you are always expected to be the strong one,
I hope you find a space where you can just be.
A space where your own needs can be met and validated,
A space where you don’t have to have it all together, where you can just be yourself without the constant critique of others,
A space where you can receive help & support, where you can receive grace instead of always having to meet someone’s expectations,
I hope you have a space where you’re allowed to be weak.
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The strong one is often expected to overcome, achieve, support, and not have “real” needs.
But know that the strong friend is often strong because they have to be. It was never their choice.
Your strong friends need more support because they’re often carrying others' burdens on top of their own,
& quite frankly, it’s always been too heavy.
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So, cheer for the one you expect to accomplish.
Encourage the one who appears to achieve a lot.
Reach out to the helper you think has it all together.
To the vault friend you constantly dump on, take a moment this week to ask her for what she needs.
Give credit to the one who inspires you, the one you look up to, the one you sometimes envy.
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& to the strong one, do the brave thing and speak your needs.
Do the brave thing & go for what you really want to do, not just what’s expected from you.
Do the brave thing & set a boundary or two.
Take a risk at something new & be willing to fail or get it wrong.
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Historically, your needs were often directly or indirectly seen as not “that” important.
You were expected to “be fine”, not knowing that your strength was a means to survive.
You dealt with people disappointing you, abandoning you, or having unrealistic expectations of you.
& somewhere along the lines, you stopped being celebrated because what you did became the expectation.
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But, I dare you to do the brave thing by being willing to be weak.
& I pray you find a safe space to do so this week.
— mc 🤎